Freedom (and Water) in our Nation's Capital

Justin convinced me to accompany him on a business trip.  Since Alathea had the weekend off and Mandee was on a cruise with her sister, why not.

I knew it wouldn’t be a vacation, per se, as Samuel is 6 months old, but at least it would be something of an adventure, the conference being held in D.C.

I can sum up the first few days...  Justin was in meetings, mostly.  And Samuel was mostly either really great or really impossible.  No one ever told me that motherhood is an exercise in mental illness, euphoria to desperation in a matter of seconds and back again when baby smiles at you all innocently as if you had just imagined the fit he just threw.  All of this mania fueled by sleep deprivation, and it’s a wonder moms, as a population, aren’t guilty of more than wearing outdated jeans.

On the third day of the trip, Justin had only one morning meeting left, after which we had no agenda.  His boss recommended the architecture museum or the Jefferson memorial, both of which neither of us had visited before.  We also had the option of resting in the plush hotel room, only Samuel and his momma were ready for a change of scenery.  We also needed to leave enough time for the room to be cleaned as the trash cans were full of dirty diapers and coffee cups and to-go packages from the hotel deli.  Oh yes, and the poop smear on the bed sheets from Samuel blowing out of his diaper.  Long gone are the days of just asking for extra towels and forgoing the room cleaning.

Justin returns from his meeting with an idea.  At his meeting with Rachel, she informed him of a protest/demonstration for freedom in Egypt taking place at the White House. 

One of the many things Mandee said before she left was something to the effect of, “Throughout the centuries and through the course of history, we have heard the cries of freedom from the oppresor coming out of Egypt.”  Her profound statement came somewhere between, I hope I packed the right stuff to wear, and are you sure you know how to give Thumper his medicine?

I want to go to the protest.  I also know what it will take to get there in less than an hour:  Samuel needs to eat again and have his diaper changed.  I need to wash bottles so that I can pack his bag.  He’s finally napping peacefully and so we will have to wake him which may result in a fussy baby for the afternoon.

I also need to put on some make-up, do something with my unwashed hair, get the baby spit-up off of my jeans.

Post flurry in the hotel room, we somehow manage to get out the door in a timely manner.  We walk to the metro station, guess at where we were going and how much money to load on our tickets. 

Samuel has his first ride on the subway and he’s happy, taking it all in.

We get off at metro center where all of the different trains meet.  Still not exactly sure what happened but when we exit, we are literally dead center in the middle of Macy’s.  All I know is that we’re not in Unicoi anymore.

We find our way out of housewares, out of cosmetics, out of the mall and towards the White House.  Justin keeps commenting on how few people are out today.  It’s Valentines Day... our beloved nation’s capital is not exactly a hot-spot for the most romantic day of the year.

We are sure that once we get to the White House, we will find masses of people  congregated to celebrate the liberty of humanity.  Instead, we find a small but impressive demonstration of end-of-the-world-ers, replete with newly painted vans and a culturally diverse group of believers.

An asian lady asks Justin if he would like a brochure.  She explains, “We’re rooting for the rapture on May 21st.”

“No, I’m alright,” he says.

“I hope so,” she comments, with a bit more condescension than compassion.

Wow.  We laugh.  But I start to feel slightly guilty, as if we should have heard her out.  What if she’s right.  In my head, I make a reference to the verse, “No one knows the hour,” partly to convince myself.

The next morning, we head to breakfast at this cool little restaurant across from the hotel.  Great food.  Eclectic.  Charming. Diverse to the extreme.  Open to families, babies specifically, unlike the sushi joint we tried the night before.

We are greeted not only by the staff, but also by the man at the table next to us.  “Hey, little guy,” he says to Samuel.  “Alright.  How y’all doin?  Sure is nice out today.  What’s up little man?”

Being the introvert that I am, I start to get anxious that our whole meal will be talking to this man.  But he settles.  For whatever reason, I can’t stop looking at him.  He’s still smiling.  Kind.  He asks his server if it wouldn’t be too much trouble to get some more water.  I realize that’s all he’s having.

It’s never safe to assume, but likely he’s homeless.  And as he gets up to leave, I help Samuel wave him good-bye.  He smiles and waves back and grabs his crutches and hobbles out. 

I’ve been thinking a bit, ever since, about faith, about freedom.  I’ve been thinking about this man’s faith as opposed to the woman rooting for the rapture.  One triggers my guilty complex.  One leaves me feeling vulnerable, human. 

And I’ve been thinking about how fortunate we are to live in a land where our faith is not mandated, where we are free to root for whatever we choose.

Still, for all of our freedom, there will always be poverty and injustice, sometimes echoing out of Egypt and sometimes in the smile of the man sitting next to me.

And I’ve been thinking about our table-neighbor making good on Jesus’ offer, “Come and drink from a well that never runs dry.” 

I echo his words, “Excuse me, Sir.  If it’s not too much to ask, could I trouble you for some more water?”  I wait for my glass to be filled.

Two Ticks, Two Tumors

Our border collie Thumper loves to lay on his back and have his belly rubbed.  When he first showed up on our porch 12 years ago, he was covered in thick matted fur.  He would roll over, we would dig through the nastiness, scratch in just the right place on his belly and make his legs kick and flail in the air.  Nothing would make him happier.  During his transition from homeless mountain mutt to bubble bath, sitting on the couch watching Project Runway dog, we began to find ticks embedded in his skin underneath all of his fur.  We washed him and had him shaved so he could start the process of becoming a proper inside dog.  Every time we found a new tick, we got in the habit of getting out the tweezers and holding the dog down as we ripped the tick from his skin.  One day, as he was reveling in his belly rub, I noticed two new ticks embedded in the skin on his stomach.  We got the tweezers and I pulled and pulled and couldn’t get these two ticks to let go and come loose.  We immediately made an appointment at the vet and took him in.  When the vet came into the exam room, we explained the situation, and she rolled him over to check out the ticks.  She took one look at his belly and explained to us - those aren’t ticks, those are his teets.  Oh, yes, we realized then that boys have teets too, and yes, I had been pulling at Thumper’s with tweezers.  Poor dog.

And, it seems we haven’t learned much about male mammals in the last 10 years even   though Cristi has gotten married to one and now has a baby one.  The other day Cristi and I were changing Baby Samuel’s diaper.  “Boys come in here - something is wrong with Samuel” we yelled to the fellas in the other room.  As they ran in we started explaining “he’s got a tumor or something down there”.  Justin, the husband, paused and said, “are there two of them?”  “yes”.  “Those aren’t tumors”.  For those of you who don’t know, we thought we should share what we learned - at about 6 months of age, the boy parts drop.  Don’t panic, they aren’t tumors.

Congratulations???

Our other dog, Thumper, also known as Uncle Thumper is getting old.  He is turning 13 this year, and all these years he has been a sweet companion to us.

I picked him up the other day from his hypoallergenic bath at the vet (because he has skin issues and everyone I love is allergic to him.)  The vet tech who brought him out to me hollered, "CONGRATULATIONS" as we ran out of the office.  "THANKS," I smiled and waved.  Once I got in my car, I thought, "Congratulations.  For what?"  Was it because Cristi and I had just been featured on the cover of our local newspaper for being finalists in a music competition or was it because the last time I came into the vet office my boyfriend came in there with me, and as we all know, that was surprising enough to all of us, OR, was it that the vet had figured out that my beloved old dog was not knocking on death's door like I thought, but that he has a severe case of hypothyroidism.  I sat in my car and laughed out loud that I really couldn't be sure what good thing it was exactly for.  For all of our years and days of dark artistic angst (I think we even had a few of those last week) it is a gift to be reminded that things aren't really as bad as we think they are.  In fact they might even be plain old good.

Skunk and Roll

On Tuesday, baby Samuel learned to roll over and pre-adolescent puppy Frank learned what a skunk smells like.

I know, the skunk trumps the baby roll in shock value, which turns out to be true even for me, the Momma, from the moment I smelled something akin to burning plastic and began checking all the radiator heaters. 

Justin comes home from work a few minutes later... What’s that smell?  In his male, focused way, he begins checking everything in the house with an on/off switch, or anything that could spontaneously combust.  He finds a plastic trash can close to a heater and concludes this must be the culprit.  We convince ourselves the smell is getting fainter, though it’s no secret that we grow accustomed to scents over time.
Mandee comes over for dinner, as she does every night, a half hour later.  Y’all, Frank smells like a skunk.

We should have known something was up.  Frank, the puppy who makes himself known by jumping up on us and begging for our attention, sits on the far side of the porch, head down, destitute.  He knows something in the world is not right tonight, and he’s the object of it.

And we realize there’s no burning plastic there is just a dog in nature.  Without a moment’s hesitation, Justin seeks help, from Google... dog sprayed by skunk.

And, Google responds.  Bathe with hydrogen peroxide, baking soda, dish detergent.

If the dog gets wet, the smell will get stronger.  Great, because not only did we just read that we have to give him an extreme bath, but it’s raining outside... so we close him in our mud room.

We keep reading...  Don’t let the dog in the house.  The smell will permeate, saturate.

Justin throws on his swimming trunks in the freezing mid-winter 20 degree evening and wrestles with the skunk smell that is his dog, taking a water hose to him.

Mandee, who literally always smells better than roses and who has a dozen different sprays and scents for her house, not to mention, incense, essential oil burners and candles, says without exaggeration, Gag people, I don’t know if I can stand the smell. 

I remind her of our friend Angie who is not a fan of coffee.  She claims that Starbucks smells like skunk.  I deduce that it may not be a stretch for us to imagine the skunk smelling like Starbucks, as we are coffee-lovers in the truest form.

Two days later, and two dog baths, three candles, a can of deodorizer, and a few loads of laundry later, the smell has nearly subsided, and Frank is back to being proud he’s a puppy and announcing his presence by jumping for attention.  Everything returns to our pseudo sense of normal, at least in the puppy world.

Not so with the baby’s first roll.  The next day after Samuel rolled over for the first time, he rolled over a dozen times.  Now, we lay him down and he flips and flips.  Just two days ago, he would lie immobile on his back in his rainforest and look at the lights and play with the hanging birds and mirrors and twirly things and laugh and jabber, entertained.  Consequently, we would have a few minutes here to eat a meal and a few minutes there to switch the laundry or clean up the kitchen.

And now, overnight, he is on the move.  And our pseudo sense of normal has changed for good, for the good.

Sometimes there’s a difference between what gets our attention and what we pay attention to.   Neither is intrinsically good or bad.  But sometimes it’s the lesser thing that causes the greater shift.

And at the risk of sounding like I'm shamelessly plugging our own music, though I prefer to think of it as  how we keep living the music...
Either way, once again, in my head, I hear the lyric from tremble,
The subtlest change can start so far away.  A bird flutters her wings and sends a breeze across the plain. 

check, check. 1, 2, 3, 4

Every show starts the same way.  An empty room, the stage set and sound check.
Often, we are still in our sweats from the long drive in the truck.  One of us steps up to a microphone, takes a breath and, "check, check.  1, 2, 3, 4".  Before the instruments are tuned, before the lights are up, we count to 4.

So, we are starting a blog.  We doubt we will be consistent, but, we will be all heart and we are going to take lots of pictures of sunsets from the road and from home.  We'll see what resonates and for now, we are going to start with sound check.